Take Time To Dig Deeper To Discover Why You Can’t Lose Weight - Sabbatical and Sabatoge

So there are two things about my message that can get you in a little bit of an ackward place.  First, I tell you all live your life outloud.  Then I also say….. Dig Deep and find out your WHY!   Why do you do what you do?, Why do you want to change? What do you value most?  Figure out your own core values and stick to them.

So here’s the thing… I’m struggling with something right now that’s caused me to want to not live outloud, it’s caused me to want to run and hide from the world and truth be told has caused me to find my way to the bottom of many fast food drive thru bags.  So when you think… I haven’t heard much from Keatha lately, It’s true I’m somewhat on sabbatical.

I took my own advice and dug deeper to figure out WHY I was responding to certain situations the way that I was and why I was feeling so lost.   What I found was that there was unresolved trauma from my past that triggered me in ways that maybe other l people wouldn’t respond to in the same way.

But more importantly, I found myself living incongruently to my own core values. one thing I have learned in my personal journey is that any time you are going against your own core values, chaos emerges.   This is exactly what was happening, there were just things that go so deeply against my core values that my spirit and soul just reacted so badly.   But understanding the WHY behind it allowed me to love myself and give myself some grace.   The famous words of Jane Pilgner that have brought me so clarity is a statement she taught me in a class many years ago and if you are a client of mine and you’ve experienced an overeat, I often referred you back to this statement…. Well of course LOVE you feel _ insert emotion______________ because of __situation______. 

A lot of times that  first feeling in the  blank causes us to eat.   Sad, lonely, disappointed, neglected, left off, alone, miserable, out of control… the list goes on and on.    Just google emotion wheel and you'll get a ton of free ones, even YouTube videos on how to create your own. 

Of course, you are thinking, well just stay away from those situations.   That's exactly what I did, For YEARS I avoided this type of situation.  Unfortunately, recently I’ve been faced with the situation repeatedly.  I found myself feeling traumatized and almost wounded and felt like I couldn’t control my own environment to protect myself from this reoccurring feeling.   

One counselor described it as feeling like your being hit over and over or someone being shot over and over but in placed that weren’t life threatening.   It was true.  The more I experienced it, the weaker I felt, the sadder I became, the more lost I was on the inside.  I was fighting like HELL to work through it, but it was getting the best of me.    It was during one of my podcast interviews when it hit me that I needed to figure out WHY I felt wounded and traumatized.      

Once you have your mind in this place, it’s so easy to feel defeated and listen to the lies of the world and the enemy.  It starts to compound and compound until I felt completely lost again.  It's been several years since I felt this was and  GOD WAS NOT HAVING IT.    Since I’ve started my little sabbatical , God has shown up in ways to loving point out my own self sabotaging so to speak but also shown me all the good that I do bring to the world.  

Sisters this battle with our bodies and minds is ongoing an battle… It’s an all out  WAR! 

 Sisters, If you can relate to any of this, I cannot stress enough the importance of working through your stuff.  If you want to get to the bottom of your weight issues, your disordered eating, your relationship issues.  You need to journal, you need to get some help from a professional.    I’ve given you some excellent resources and access to some incredible life coaches that specialize in different areas, use them.

I can coach your through weight loss, I can coach you through transition and maintenance but when deep seeded issues rear their ugly heads… you need more and it’s my job to recognize that in you and even in myself!

I’m taking my own advice and I’m going dig even deeper for the remainder of Lent.  I want to show up in the world as the absolute best version of myself.  That means, I need to spend a lot more time with God, journaling and resting.   So as you hear some of the topics shift and episodes a little father apart… know that I’m here getting myself better and better to serve God and you as the best version of myself.

So sister, never let anyone determine your core values, dig deep, live outloud without any reservation!   

EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US BRINGS GOOD INTO THE WORLD, even when we bring our ugly along.  It’s only through the work do we all get better together! 

So if you're ready to have a coach that has been where you have been and still contending for my own health every day, schedule an appointment with me and let's get you started.  I'm taking new April clients now!

 

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P.S.  If you need to do some core values work, go back to episode 23 and download the free core values workbook.